Eliminating the fear of the approach



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

In my last two posts I talked about the reasons “Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls”. Those reasons were as diverse as the fear of rejection, the fear of exposure, excessive shyness, low self esteem, procrastination, being clueless on what do or say, performance anxiety and the fear of embarrassment.

When you sit back and consider the above-mentioned reasons they play themselves out in your mind. In this post we will try to eliminate some of those fears so that you will find it easier to approach and talk to the women you are attracted to.

Even the guys that appear confident and self assured can find the act of walking up to, and striking up a conversation with, an attractive woman, let alone a group of women, extremely daunting.

This is known as the ‘opening’ and is one of the biggest obstacle guys have in their interaction with the opposite sex especially when it comes with the goal of attracting them.

The reason for this is not hard to see. After all, approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman would appear to come with a considerable amount of risk and therefore requires a considerable effort on your part.

So why do men have trouble approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman? Well, although we touched on some of the reasons in previous posts let us take another look?

Firstly, they are scared of being shot down in flames, rejected and made a fool of by the woman they approach.

Then, because they have approached the girl with the ulterior motive of picking her up, they think that the girl will see through their approach and be totally unenthusiastic about having something like a normal, enjoyable conversation with them.

Some of the guys worry that after a few minutes of conversation they won’t have anything to say, standing there with a mouth full of teeth. The reason this may happen is that they could be thinking way too much about what to say next instead of listening to her so that they can respond appropriately.

They also worry that after a few minutes in her presence they will loose whatever courage they mustered, start to unravel and loose the plot.

Most guys know that to pick up a woman successfully requires more than just approaching and opening. Instead of enjoying the woman’s company they start to think about the other stages of seduction and worry about how the will achieve them. They worry whether they will be able to close at the end of the conversation and get her phone number or get a date with her.

They also worry whether any of the other guys in the vicinity may encroach upon and thwart their attempt to pick up the woman.

Some guys will worry about how their attempt at picking the woman up may look to others. Even though nobody is looking at them they feel as though they are under a microscope, with every move they make analysed. And the funny thing is that they are not wrong in this aspect because they are the ones thinking and analysing their own moves.

There are other reasons why guys fear the approach and opening but they all fall in similar categories of the ones listed above.

They mainly relate to thinking too much and relate to their deep-seated fear of being ridiculed in front of others and rejection.

In my next post we will look at ways to sidestep your fear of approaching and opening to an attractive and vivacious woman and do so effectively whenever and
wherever you want to.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls (2)



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


Following from yesterday’s post on why average guys end up dating average girls here are a few more reasons why “Mr Average” avoids dating women whom he considers very attractive.


The first is a great one – procrastination. The average guy will think up excuses not to take action. After all what are the odds of him dating a foxy lady? 10 million to 1! With odds like that, why bother trying? But by not doing anything, by not acting on your aspirations, nothing will happen. And so by default you pass up on that beautiful vivacious woman and land up with an “average” girl.


Another reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is that he is clueless on what do or say. Beautiful vivacious women can appear to be very sophisticated and adept at playing the seduction game. And this poses a problem to the average guy – after all what do you say or do to impress someone who may have seen or heard every approach known to man?


Some guys suffer from performance anxiety and we are not talking about sexual performance here. Average guys are by default not used to talking to hot, sexy ladies and become extremely anxious when interacting with them. For some guys this anxiety can be quite debilitating. However, once they know the girl they loosen up and loose their inhibition. For these guys, the best approach would be to be introduced to the girl through a mutual friend.


Another debilitating reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is the fear of embarrassment. People in general are terrified of making a fool of themselves in front of others especially their peers and guys certainly do not want to make fools of themselves in front of someone the find extremely attractive. For some guys the threat of embarrassment appears so real to them that it causes them to literally freeze. The fear of potential embarrassment makes them shy away from considering the possibility that she will say yes to their advances.

When it is all said and done the problems listed above mostly play themselves out in your mind. Your imagination magnifies the problems to the extent that they become debilitating. It’s all in the mind.


You’ve got to learn to power through. Focus on the prize and not the problem, especially when the problem here is self inflicted. The trick here is to go for it. And if things do not go to plan don’t give up. You owe it to yourself to try again. The second or third time will be easier.



I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – it all starts with a mindset.


Let’s face it we all want to date really hot and beautiful women but so few of the guys I know actually do so. They fantasize about dating hot women and they edge each other on about the hot ‘babe’ that walked past. And nothing happens. In fact if that hot ‘babe’ happened to talk to them they get tongue tied.


They are obsessed with gorgeous women. And yet they always appear to land up with really average girls.


The funny thing is that this is not due to a lack of hot and beautiful women.


Statistically the ratio of men who fantasize about going out with beautiful vivacious women with those who actually date them is enormous. And the funny thing is, it has nothing to do with a lack of attractive women.


So why do “average” guys settle for “average” girls? Why do they shy away from dating girls they consider “too attractive” to go out with? Why do they think that those girls are out of their league?


The reasons why “Mr Average” avoids dating women whom they consider very attractive are


One of the biggest reasons for this avoidance is the fear of rejection. Guys have this rather stupid notion that very attractive women are hunk magnets. As a side note I have to point out something here; many of the so-called good looking guys or jocks have the same inhibition that the “average” guys have. However, the “average” guy wrongly assumes that because a woman is attractive she will automatically be approached so often by so many guys that the chance of rejection is automatically greater. And that the more attractive a woman is, the greater the chances of rejection becomes.


Another reason for this avoidance is the fear of exposure. The “average” guy wrongly assume that because an attractive woman is approached often by men who want to date them that they become accustomed to the various styles and techniques being used to attract them. And that she will see straight through his moves rendering his chance of success close to zero.


A third reason for his avoidance is often categorised by excessive shyness. Some men are naturally shy around women. And the more attractive a woman is, or the more women there are to interact with the more intense his shyness becomes.


Another reason for his avoidance is that he may suffer from a low self esteem. The problem here has to do with your self worth. One automatically assumes that because a woman is extremely attractive you expect her to be with an attractive guy. The problem here is that the “average” guy sees himself as average, that is not very attractive, not rich enough, not tall enough and ultimately not good enough for a extremely attractive woman.


Most of what we have discussed above has to do with you mindset and your expectation. The interesting thing is that the guys you regard as “attractive” to women do not necessarily see themselves in the same light. And then there is also the woman’s viewpoint – she could be attracted to what you may consider as a nerd. After all there is no accounting for taste. She could have had some bad experiences with jocks and want nothing to do with them. There are so many variables when it comes to the interactivity between men and women that you always have a chance but only if you take it.


We all see things from our perspective and what one person considers attractive is not necessarily shared by others. And this my friend makes the field wide open if only you take your chances and go for it.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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How To Tell If Your Ex Girlfriend Wants To Get Back With You

Author: Albert Nel

Is your ex girlfriend spending more time with you, calling just to chat, maybe even flirting and reminding you of great memories you shared? If this is the case you might be pleasantly surprised to know she wants you back. But before we run away with that thought, lets first make sure we have all the facts straight.

Over the years these have become some sure signs that your ex girlfriend might be thinking of getting back with you again. But even if this may so, you should never just throw yourself at her in a desperate attempt to seize the possibility. The best way will always be to play hard-to-get in the right amounts as this will only increase the attraction she feels towards you. If you just jump into it you seriously risk pushing your ex girlfriend away further than ever before.

It is normal to feel that empty hole of missing your ex after a break up. Your ex will most likely feel the exact same way because you have been torn from her lives as well. This holds especially true if the relationship was around one year or longer. Just by the simple fact of all the memories you share, your ex will not be able to help but also miss you.

I have to put a warning here. Unfortunately ex girlfriends have been known to only act interested to play with you and see what they can get out of you. Some people just like the thrill of getting attention and knowing that you still love them. So unless you are absolutely convinced that your ex is real with you, it might just be her way of stirring up some drama until the next guy comes along. That is why I say you should be careful not to jump the gun, but rather first make sure about the situation and then act on it.

After years of helping guys it’s unfortunate to say that this happens a lot. Therefore you are the only one who really has a feel for the situation and will be able to tell what’s really going on. That is why I recommend playing hard-to-get now. If your ex girlfriend just played games with your heart and wasn’t serious about getting back together, you have protected yourself by not committing to anything. On the other hand, if she really wants to get back together, you will only be increasing the attraction which will eventually make her send out some pretty intense signals that she truly wants to be back with you.

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Relationships: Dating Problems



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

Some of the problems arising from dating occur through a lack of communication rather than of incompatibility.

Communication is a two way street. If one-person talks all the time whilst the other only listens, that is not communication. It also involves being a good listener. By that I mean really listen to the other person instead of thinking about what you are going to say next.

When it comes to incompatibility I have gone out with women, which according to others perceptions, were totally incompatible for me. And guess what? We had a great time together.

I was interested in them and made an effort to get to know them.

There will be times that you will go out with someone and things just don’t jell. This could be that you are just not right for each other. That’s OK. It happens.

Communication is extremely important during a relationship. The problem is that we have almost never been taught to communicate properly. We tend to have difficulties in expressing our feelings. Its not that we have to wear our hearts on our sleeves or that we have to be all touchy feely – we should just be honest about the way we feel and communicate this clearly.

Another problem regarding communication is not being clear about what you want and expressing this clearly.

When you communicate properly with each other you will quickly discover what you have in common and whether you are right for each other.

You don’t have to have the same likes and dislikes or even the same interests. I for one am not interested in going out with my clone.

However, if you are too radically different or you have different goals with regards to the relationship then maybe it would be wise to cut your losses. After all you cannot force a relationship.

It is quite important to communicate what you want out of your relationship so that there are no misunderstandings.

Relationship can be put under strain when one person in the relationship is needier than the other person. For instance, if you want your space but the other person is needy, always wanting to know where you are, whom you are with and what you are doing. This type of person will ultimately try to control your life. If you let this type of person control you, you will find that your friends will all drift away.

More often than not dating problems occur when your or your date’s communication skills are not up to par.

You have to be at ease with the person you are with so you can talk to them. Being at ease with the person you are with allows you to relax, open up and enjoy your time with them

If you are uncomfortable in expressing yourself to the person you are with it could be time to reconsider your relationship with her.

Being comfortable with and being able to really communicate with your date will show you how compatible you are with each other. If you don’t have these two things then you should possibly only consider a good friendship.



I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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