Self-confidence – A Skill that can be learned



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


Let’s get going with today’s topic regarding self-confidence.


There was this extremely attractive and sexy young lady in an office I once worked in. The single guys kept buzzing around her like bees around a honey pot, but that is where it stopped.


This went on until a new guy joined the company. It did not take long before he figured out that even though there were always guys’ talking to her, no one was actually going out with her. He had the self confidence and the self assuredness to ask her out and guess what? She accepted.


You may have noticed that I talk a lot about self confidence. This is because self-confidence is one of the crucial elements in achieving success, not only with women but also in life in general.

Funnily enough, it is a skill that can be learned. As I’ve said previously you can fake it until you make it. Faking confidence is similar to practicing confidence. It’s like a pilot practicing a flight in a simulator. Faking confidence is a simulation of the real thing. And the more you practice the better you get until it becomes a part of you.

The problem is that if you have been told that you are worthless all your life it becomes a part of you. It’s like subroutine that’s been added to your core program and even though it is difficult to reprogram yourself it can be done. To stay with the software analogy, it is a case of overwriting the subroutine with new and better code.

Before you can get the women you really want in your life you must believe in yourself, you have to believe in your own self-worth. Because if you don’t believe in yourself, how can you get others to believe in you. Remember you are selling a package to the world and that package is you.

The problem as I see it is without believing in yourself and without self confidence you are going to miss out, not only with the ladies but in life as well.

There are thousands of guys out there who are not nearly as talented, intelligent or good-looking as you and yet they’ve succeeded in attracting and seducing the woman of their dreams. And the only difference between THEM and YOU is that they have done something right, or enough of something right, in order to succeed.

Instant gratification and overnight success does not exist in our world. You’ve got to work at to achieve your goals. By being prepared you create your own luck.

Rejection ain’t no big a deal if you practice detachment.  Normally its our ego that gets in the way, blowing things out of proportion.

There will be milestones when a woman initially rejects you and then changes her mind later on, (Unfortunately for her you may have move on by then) or when you get rejected by a woman only to go on and have great success in your very next attempt with an even better looking woman. These milestone reinforce the fact that rejection is no big deal.

So take on board what you’ve learned and redouble your efforts. Go out there and practice improving your skills. And for Pete’s sake do it with a smile on your face.


You must realize that not only CAN YOU go after your dreams – but you can actually REALIZE THEM!!!


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.

Until the next time.

Alain


Until the next time.


Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Self-confidence and detachment



Hi Guys,

I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

Some time ago I posted an article titled “What do women look for in a man?” and one of the qualities I talked about was Confidence. And this is the focus of this article which I hope will be of benefit to some of you.

We communicate as much if not more through our body language as through verbal communication.

Whether or not you’re consciously aware of it, everything you do communicates some form of status. By being smooth and comfortable you give off a sense of quiet confidence. When you are confident and comfortable in social situations you project that automatically through your body language.

Everybody has confidence issues; it just depends on the task being performed. Self-confidence also varies depending on events and external factors. The lack of self-confidence appear to stem from various causes, however upon closer examination they appear to have a common thread – that of having irrational ideas about yourself.

It is a fact that self-confidence and social skills are just that, SKILLS. While some people appear to be endowed with and be automatically good at those skills, practice can improve your skills too.

Self-confidence is beneficial in both social and professional spheres. Without it you will more than likely miss out on many opportunities to be successful. A lack of self-confidence in the social arena could very well mean missing out on the woman of your life simply because you didn’t have the courage to go up to them and talk to them.

To generate attraction in women you have to have the confidence to talk to them.

To start building up your self-confidence, you will need to accept that you will have to step out of your comfort zone, however if you do that, you will be massively rewarded. Don’t worry you really don’t have to jump in at the deep end straight away.

You can start off by learning to talk to total strangers for instance. You could make small talk with five people you don’t know TODAY. It does not really matter what you talk about and if you don’t know what to say you can always talk about the weather. And remember to smile while talking to them.

Go into shops with women working in them and ask them questions regarding a product or if you are buying something talk to them regarding your purchase. When talking to them, use their name (it will most likely be on their name badge), smile and be friendly. Keep things light and don’t be creepy. (Online shopping is great but it takes away the human element and contact with others).

When walking through a shopping mall or a park, just say “Hi” to people you come across, and once again remember to smile. It does not matter whether they are men or women.

It’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone and making an effort to do so.

You can also boost your confidence by practicing detachment. By this I mean that we give up our attachment to the outcome. We can do this through the acceptance of uncertainty as part of your experience while remaining open to all possibilities.

To practice detachment when approaching a woman is to focus upon what you do rather than what she does. You detach yourself from needing her to be any particular way. You focus on your actions without an attachment to her response to your approach. If you decide in your mind that there is nothing that you want or expect from her (A if it happens, it happens kind of approach to the situation), you will find that her ability to shake your self-confidence is greatly reduced. If you practice a calm, healthy detachment from others, while being friendly and engaging in conversation, you don’t allow their behaviour to determine how you think and feel about yourself.

Don’t deride yourself – ever. Decide to inspire people rather than spending time putting yourself down in front of others. Putting yourself down will never help you to build your self-confidence levels and may even make other people feel uncomfortable around you.

Commit yourself to behaving in a more confident manner as of NOW even if it feels like an act. Do what others such as actors, politicians, musicians, sports stars, and etc do – pretend you’re confident even if you are not. Who will know the difference? I promise not to tell if you don’t.

What makes you think that the woman you approach is not doing the same? Women have the same problems with self-confidence as men. And after all, keep in mind that any negative outcome won’t really affect your life.

You can control what people think about you. It’s not the other way around. And once you realise this your self-confidence will really power up.

So go out there, appreciate who you are, practice talking to others, practice detachment and have some fun attracting and getting the woman or women you want in your life.

I would really like you to comment if you have any thoughts on the above.


Until the next time.

Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Stay Away From The Booze

Seduction Secrets For Men


Hi Guys,


Just a short article today and one not at all politically correct.

You are reading this because you would like to attract and seduce beautiful attractive women. The type of woman described by Mickey Spillane in his Mike Hammer books and the sort of women seen in the earlier Mike Hammer television series with Stacy Keach i.e. drop dead gorgeous with million-dollar legs.


Some guys drink to boost their courage to approach a woman and this works up to a point, as the alcohol tends to have a relaxing effect. If you do this it would be best to limit how much you drink if you want your pick up to go as well as possible.


Earlier when we talked about believing in yourself I really meant that. You don’t need alcohol or drugs to boost your self-esteem. In fact drunks are a turn off. Drunks may think they are funny and interesting when in reality they are not. And when they the start to talk to God on the big white telephone it is darn right unappealing.


There is absolutely no way in hell that you can you sell yourself when you are drunk?


When you are trying to pick-up that gorgeous attractive woman you want to be on the ball, sharp and always aware of what is being said. Being too drunk will inhibit your ability to pick up any subtle signs of flirtation given off by women in the form of body language, gestures and verbal cues. And you will have blown it.


Being drunk also impairs your vision.



An acquaintance of mine had been drinking while he was out clubbing. He met a woman and even though inebriated managed to get her details. In his stupor he found her extremely attractive and they made plans to meet later during the week.


The following day, as he had her details, he decided to check her out on facebook. He discovered that she was a rather plain and unattractive woman.


Now I know that everybody’s tastes are different when it comes to what they consider attractive but why settle for second best?


For a while he even tried to convince himself that she was as attractive as his alcohol fuelled mind had tricked him into seeing the night before. But then he also had a stake in believing this as he had told his friend about this hot woman he had met. However, luckily for him, they soon dispelled his illusion and he didn’t go on his date.


Sure you can have a drink but moderate yourself. Only have two or three drinks instead of eight to ten.


In order to uncover the powerful insider secrets that will skyrocket your sex life and make wonderful women beg you to date them CLICK HERE to find out more.

Until the next time.

Alain

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What do women look for in a man?

Seduction Secrets For Men



Hi Guys,


The question many men have is “What do women look for in a man?”.  Most men have absolutely no idea what women want.   In this post we will attempt to answer this question.


When a woman looks at a man she will have her template, the list of qualities she is looking for in a man at the ready.

If, you, as a man, know what they are and can demonstrate that you have those qualities it will make her want you.  This is part of the attraction and seduction process.



You don’t have to demonstrate all the qualities she is looking for but the more of those rare qualities you project the more she will want you and the easier it is for you to seduce her.


So what are those qualities that women look for in a man?


A woman will be looking for some of the following qualities:


High status – Being an alpha male has more to do about your attitude and behaviour rather than money or appearance.  You project it in the way you walk and move with deliberate and focused actions.


Leadership – A take-charge attitude and a strong charisma at work, socially and amongst peers.


Power – she wants to feel safe and secure and so she wants a man that can protect her and her children and that he is willing to use resources to protect her.


Attractive to other women – There is an element of pre-selection here as well as the challenge aspect of it. No one gains much intrinsic value from winning something that’s easy.


Funny – Every body likes being in the company of someone who appears to have a good sense of humour.


Confident – Whether or not you’re consciously aware of it, everything you do communicates some form of status.  By being smooth and comfortable you give off a sense of quiet confidence.


Strong – either mentally or physically or both.  A woman wants to know whether a man has a strong and health body and at the same time whether he possesses sharp and dynamic thinking capabilities i.e. can he figure out what to do and how to do it.


Looks/body – She wants to know whether you have good genes for her offspring’s.


Social competence – She wants to know that you possess the social, emotional, and intellectual skills and behaviours to succeed in society.


Dress sense – need I say more?


Emotionally wired correctly – she wants to know that you are emotionally wired correctly and that you are not a potential psychopath. She wants a man that will respond with the correct emotions at the right times and is willing to sympathize and empathize.


A willingness to walk away – If you value your standards you are able and willing to walk away from any woman, no matter how beautiful she is, should she display qualities or behaviours you do not approve of.  And, after all, why should you settle for anything less.


A real male – not a metro-sexual male who is less certain of his identity and is more interested in his image and has himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual preference.  After all she does not want to compete with you for time in the bathroom etc.


Now, as I’ve mentioned before, you don’t have to demonstrate all the above qualities to become attractive to a woman.


But you should learn to demonstrate the above qualities…


And every time you demonstrate them…


You fire mental triggers in her mind that makes her want you.


People want what they can’t currently have and the more of those rare qualities you exhibits (5 or more of the above-mentioned qualities) the more she won’t be able to resist you.


You will generate a genuine, deep and real, mental and sexual attraction for you in her mind.


However, it does require a bit of work on your part.  Re-read the above.  Act upon it.  Believe me it will be worth it.


In order to uncover the powerful insider secrets that will skyrocket your sex life and make wonderful women beg you to date them,  CLICK HERE to find out more.


Until the next time.


Alain

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