Eliminating the fear of the approach



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

In my last two posts I talked about the reasons “Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls”. Those reasons were as diverse as the fear of rejection, the fear of exposure, excessive shyness, low self esteem, procrastination, being clueless on what do or say, performance anxiety and the fear of embarrassment.

When you sit back and consider the above-mentioned reasons they play themselves out in your mind. In this post we will try to eliminate some of those fears so that you will find it easier to approach and talk to the women you are attracted to.

Even the guys that appear confident and self assured can find the act of walking up to, and striking up a conversation with, an attractive woman, let alone a group of women, extremely daunting.

This is known as the ‘opening’ and is one of the biggest obstacle guys have in their interaction with the opposite sex especially when it comes with the goal of attracting them.

The reason for this is not hard to see. After all, approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman would appear to come with a considerable amount of risk and therefore requires a considerable effort on your part.

So why do men have trouble approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman? Well, although we touched on some of the reasons in previous posts let us take another look?

Firstly, they are scared of being shot down in flames, rejected and made a fool of by the woman they approach.

Then, because they have approached the girl with the ulterior motive of picking her up, they think that the girl will see through their approach and be totally unenthusiastic about having something like a normal, enjoyable conversation with them.

Some of the guys worry that after a few minutes of conversation they won’t have anything to say, standing there with a mouth full of teeth. The reason this may happen is that they could be thinking way too much about what to say next instead of listening to her so that they can respond appropriately.

They also worry that after a few minutes in her presence they will loose whatever courage they mustered, start to unravel and loose the plot.

Most guys know that to pick up a woman successfully requires more than just approaching and opening. Instead of enjoying the woman’s company they start to think about the other stages of seduction and worry about how the will achieve them. They worry whether they will be able to close at the end of the conversation and get her phone number or get a date with her.

They also worry whether any of the other guys in the vicinity may encroach upon and thwart their attempt to pick up the woman.

Some guys will worry about how their attempt at picking the woman up may look to others. Even though nobody is looking at them they feel as though they are under a microscope, with every move they make analysed. And the funny thing is that they are not wrong in this aspect because they are the ones thinking and analysing their own moves.

There are other reasons why guys fear the approach and opening but they all fall in similar categories of the ones listed above.

They mainly relate to thinking too much and relate to their deep-seated fear of being ridiculed in front of others and rejection.

In my next post we will look at ways to sidestep your fear of approaching and opening to an attractive and vivacious woman and do so effectively whenever and
wherever you want to.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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How To Tell If Your Ex Girlfriend Wants To Get Back With You

Author: Albert Nel

Is your ex girlfriend spending more time with you, calling just to chat, maybe even flirting and reminding you of great memories you shared? If this is the case you might be pleasantly surprised to know she wants you back. But before we run away with that thought, lets first make sure we have all the facts straight.

Over the years these have become some sure signs that your ex girlfriend might be thinking of getting back with you again. But even if this may so, you should never just throw yourself at her in a desperate attempt to seize the possibility. The best way will always be to play hard-to-get in the right amounts as this will only increase the attraction she feels towards you. If you just jump into it you seriously risk pushing your ex girlfriend away further than ever before.

It is normal to feel that empty hole of missing your ex after a break up. Your ex will most likely feel the exact same way because you have been torn from her lives as well. This holds especially true if the relationship was around one year or longer. Just by the simple fact of all the memories you share, your ex will not be able to help but also miss you.

I have to put a warning here. Unfortunately ex girlfriends have been known to only act interested to play with you and see what they can get out of you. Some people just like the thrill of getting attention and knowing that you still love them. So unless you are absolutely convinced that your ex is real with you, it might just be her way of stirring up some drama until the next guy comes along. That is why I say you should be careful not to jump the gun, but rather first make sure about the situation and then act on it.

After years of helping guys it’s unfortunate to say that this happens a lot. Therefore you are the only one who really has a feel for the situation and will be able to tell what’s really going on. That is why I recommend playing hard-to-get now. If your ex girlfriend just played games with your heart and wasn’t serious about getting back together, you have protected yourself by not committing to anything. On the other hand, if she really wants to get back together, you will only be increasing the attraction which will eventually make her send out some pretty intense signals that she truly wants to be back with you.

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The ‘Bad Boy’, the ‘Nice Guy’ and the ‘Alpha Male’


Hi Guys,

In a previous article I talked about what women look for in a man.  One of the qualities I talked about was that of a high status or alpha male.

Another thing I talked about in another post was that because women are hard wired to follow their emotional thoughts and feelings… that was why so many women fell for the same jerks. Even when their logical brain are telling them that they’ll be cheated on, that they’ll be messed around and that they will be better off with the nice guy, they can’t help but seek out the excitement, the alpha male, the bad boy.

Now I should make a distinction here.  Women and guys for that matter confuse the two, the bad boy and the alpha male.

Let us look at some of the traits that the so-called bad boys have:

He doesn’t care about what others think of him;

  • He appears to be socially dominant and will try to control circumstances to make sure that others consider him as an important and high value person;
  • He tends to overcompensate with his body language by swaggering when he walks and trying to appear laid back;
  • He appears to be aggressive, conceited and very egocentric;
  • He seems to have a disregard for rules in general, appears to live by his rules and may act recklessly; and
  • He will treat women in a mocking manner and will do things to deliberately push her buttons to see how far he can go.

The so-called bad boys have their own set of insecurities and tries to compensate for them by trying to prove how tough he is and acting like a jerk.

The so-called bad boys are mostly adolescent at heart. They are loud and boisterous tend to have a gang or posse with them.   Once you remove the so-called bad boy from the pack or catch him on his own he often becomes meek and mild especially when confronted by a real alpha male.

These traits look darn right unappealing when written down, but for some reason, a lot of women respond positively to them.  The main reason for this is that women in general like being around men who make them feel safe and when they are around the so-called bad boy, they don’t have to worry because he appears to be in control.

It’s not as though women seek out bad boys on purpose; it’s just that in the absence of positive masculinity, they would rather have the above than the meekness of most nice guys.

So what has the above got to do with you, you may ask?  Well, we will be looking at the exaggerated traits adopted and demonstrated by the bad boys so that we can extract and adapt it for our use.

What we do not want to do is go to the other extreme to that of the so-called ‘nice guy’.

Whatever you do you do not want to be considered a ‘nice guy’ by women.  Let me explain by what I mean by ‘nice guy’ here.

More often than not the ‘nice guy’ is riddled with insecurities and believe me it shows.  He tries hard to hide his insecurities but his efforts, more often than not, draws attention to them instead.  Because of his insecurities he tries too hard to please her.   He buys her flowers, pays for the dates, runs errands and does pretty much everything she wants him to do.   His anxiety to please and be good to her poses no challenge to her.  She knows exactly how he will react and because of that she will loose interest very quickly.

A woman needs a man to be masculine and the traits of the nice guy are anything but masculine.  In fact he desperately need to “man up”.

Women like the chase and the ‘nice guy’ is just too much of an easy “kill”.

It is for that reason that women seek out the bad boys on purpose, she needs a man to be masculine and in the absence of positive masculinity, they would rather have the negative type over the timidity of the ‘nice guy’.

You probably think that this puts you between a rock and a hard place and may even wonder what you should do.

The answer is rather simple; what you need to do is to seek out is some kind of middle ground.

And if the description of the nice guy above struck a chord with you don’t let it faze you.  This is what you can do to re-align yourself towards becoming a high status or alpha male.

As mentioned previously being a high status or alpha male has more to do about your attitude and behavior rather than money or appearance.  You project it in the way you walk and move with deliberate and focused actions.

So let us take a look at the exaggerated traits of the bad boy and extract and refine them to suit us:

  • You have a strong sense of identity.  You know who you are without being too serious or protective over it.  It all boils down to being comfortable in your own skin and you project this in everything you say and do.  Believe in yourself, and cultivate your own brand of self-confidence.
  • You are socially skillful and know how to make people feel good without controlling them or manipulating them.
  • You don’t pander to the wants and requests of women just because they’re attractive or merely because they’ve shown a mild interest in you.  You’re not trying to win her approval but will show her a fun and exciting time if she is up for it.  You’ve got a price tag on yourself, a kind of ‘unattainability’ and ‘doesn’t seem to give a damn’ attitude that is so key to appearing to be high value to women.
  • You are not afraid to call a woman out when she has obviously crossed the line.  You treat the women decently as long as she doesn’t pull anything on you like acting a brat or flaking out. You certainly don’t reward her bad behavior. However, you reward her good behaviour and appreciate the time you spend together.
  • You demonstrate confident body language that shows no signs of anxiety or self-consciousness. You’ve got nothing to prove and nothing to deny.
  • You’re relaxed about social rules because you’re socially confident. You’re non-reactive. You get on with your own stuff.
  • You exhibit your manliness in a positive way with confidence, integrity and assertiveness.

You are not perfect.  But who is?

Women like their men to be mysterious and unpredictable so that she has to put efforts in making him hers

That’s how you stand out as being truly, naturally attractive.

Women LOVE this.

Until the next time.

Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Nothing will happen unless you do something about it.



Hi Guys,

One of the biggest problems in life is inertia or rather a lack of inertia. Generally people have become too used to instant gratification. You see it; you want it; you buy it – period. However, the same approach cannot be applied to human relationships.

If only after reading an excellent guide, such as “Seduction Secrets For Men” or “Dirty Secrets of The Pick-Up Artist“, on how to approach and seduce any woman, you can sit back and “hey presto”, it magically happens – women fall all over themselves to go out with you?  Both, you and I both know that this is only a dream.  A great dream!  And that we would have to be totally delusional to believe in that dream.

We know that nothing will happen unless we act upon it.  And yet how many of us really act upon and apply what we read.  It is our lack of inertia that holds us back.  We are not motivated enough to turn thought into action.

After reading one of the above mentioned guides you may think that the ideas presented are really interesting and you may even be motivated enough to try some of them.  However, there’s a little voice inside your head that puts a stop to all this.  Did I say voice?  There is a whole chorus in there arguing for and against implementing any of the ideas, with some of the voices coming up with a whole host of reasons why you shouldn’t.

Those little voices represent our fear.  For many of us it is our FEAR that holds us back;  the fear of making a fool of yourself;  the fear of change;  the fear of getting hurt.

The problem here is that too many of us have been conditioned for instant gratification. And that ain’t gonna happen.

We have too take stock of ourselves before applying the secret seduction techniques that we learn about in a publication such as Seduction Secrets For Men in order to find the right strategy for ourselves.

Finding the right strategy can be frustrating at times. However, it can be made even more frustrating by our drive to find the holy grail, the big one that will win big on the night. The truth as I’ve alluded to above, is that there is no holy grail. No system or strategy is perfect, but there are many out there that work and at the end of the day all you need is an edge over the competition.

Nothing, but nothing will happen unless you are willing to put the effort in.

And yet I have seen too many guys, who could not be bothered to put the effort in applying what they’ve learned, expect a result. And because nothing happens, they blame the guide or publication for their failure to do anything. This is called “projection” where someone blames you for something they have/have not done. They never take responsibility for their action or inaction.

Don’t be one of those people who blame everyone else for what happens in their lives. Take control of it yourself and go after what you want to.  Don’t let others affect you and your dreams, because at the end of the day only you can live your life.  No one else.

If you follow the advise you’ve read on how to seduce a women, you may still get rejected or you may still stumble and screw something up but so what?  I’ll let you in on a little secret … most of those guys who are swamped with women did not just get there by force of their charisma overnight, they LEARNED how to seduce women by making mistakes and fixing them and discovering bit by bit their strengths and what makes women tick.

The difference was that they stuck with it. They did not give up.

“no art, however minor, demands less than total dedication if you want to excel in it.”
– Alberti.

If you can focus you whole attention on the ‘game’ will get what you want, and wonder why others seem so incapable of doing the same.

A final thought on the subject – Most guys don’t realize this but, in general, people outside some very demanding field don’t realize the extent to which success depends on constant (though often unconscious) effort.

For example, most people seem to consider the ability to sing as some kind of inherent quality, like being tall. In fact, most people who “can sing” like singing, and have spent many hours practicing and doing it; that’s why they’re good at it. Likewise, being popular with the ladies isn’t just something you are or you aren’t, but something you make yourself.

I would really like you to comment if you have any thoughts on the above.

Until the next time.

Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist”. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

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