Eliminating the fear of the approach



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

In my last two posts I talked about the reasons “Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls”. Those reasons were as diverse as the fear of rejection, the fear of exposure, excessive shyness, low self esteem, procrastination, being clueless on what do or say, performance anxiety and the fear of embarrassment.

When you sit back and consider the above-mentioned reasons they play themselves out in your mind. In this post we will try to eliminate some of those fears so that you will find it easier to approach and talk to the women you are attracted to.

Even the guys that appear confident and self assured can find the act of walking up to, and striking up a conversation with, an attractive woman, let alone a group of women, extremely daunting.

This is known as the ‘opening’ and is one of the biggest obstacle guys have in their interaction with the opposite sex especially when it comes with the goal of attracting them.

The reason for this is not hard to see. After all, approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman would appear to come with a considerable amount of risk and therefore requires a considerable effort on your part.

So why do men have trouble approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman? Well, although we touched on some of the reasons in previous posts let us take another look?

Firstly, they are scared of being shot down in flames, rejected and made a fool of by the woman they approach.

Then, because they have approached the girl with the ulterior motive of picking her up, they think that the girl will see through their approach and be totally unenthusiastic about having something like a normal, enjoyable conversation with them.

Some of the guys worry that after a few minutes of conversation they won’t have anything to say, standing there with a mouth full of teeth. The reason this may happen is that they could be thinking way too much about what to say next instead of listening to her so that they can respond appropriately.

They also worry that after a few minutes in her presence they will loose whatever courage they mustered, start to unravel and loose the plot.

Most guys know that to pick up a woman successfully requires more than just approaching and opening. Instead of enjoying the woman’s company they start to think about the other stages of seduction and worry about how the will achieve them. They worry whether they will be able to close at the end of the conversation and get her phone number or get a date with her.

They also worry whether any of the other guys in the vicinity may encroach upon and thwart their attempt to pick up the woman.

Some guys will worry about how their attempt at picking the woman up may look to others. Even though nobody is looking at them they feel as though they are under a microscope, with every move they make analysed. And the funny thing is that they are not wrong in this aspect because they are the ones thinking and analysing their own moves.

There are other reasons why guys fear the approach and opening but they all fall in similar categories of the ones listed above.

They mainly relate to thinking too much and relate to their deep-seated fear of being ridiculed in front of others and rejection.

In my next post we will look at ways to sidestep your fear of approaching and opening to an attractive and vivacious woman and do so effectively whenever and
wherever you want to.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – it all starts with a mindset.


Let’s face it we all want to date really hot and beautiful women but so few of the guys I know actually do so. They fantasize about dating hot women and they edge each other on about the hot ‘babe’ that walked past. And nothing happens. In fact if that hot ‘babe’ happened to talk to them they get tongue tied.


They are obsessed with gorgeous women. And yet they always appear to land up with really average girls.


The funny thing is that this is not due to a lack of hot and beautiful women.


Statistically the ratio of men who fantasize about going out with beautiful vivacious women with those who actually date them is enormous. And the funny thing is, it has nothing to do with a lack of attractive women.


So why do “average” guys settle for “average” girls? Why do they shy away from dating girls they consider “too attractive” to go out with? Why do they think that those girls are out of their league?


The reasons why “Mr Average” avoids dating women whom they consider very attractive are


One of the biggest reasons for this avoidance is the fear of rejection. Guys have this rather stupid notion that very attractive women are hunk magnets. As a side note I have to point out something here; many of the so-called good looking guys or jocks have the same inhibition that the “average” guys have. However, the “average” guy wrongly assumes that because a woman is attractive she will automatically be approached so often by so many guys that the chance of rejection is automatically greater. And that the more attractive a woman is, the greater the chances of rejection becomes.


Another reason for this avoidance is the fear of exposure. The “average” guy wrongly assume that because an attractive woman is approached often by men who want to date them that they become accustomed to the various styles and techniques being used to attract them. And that she will see straight through his moves rendering his chance of success close to zero.


A third reason for his avoidance is often categorised by excessive shyness. Some men are naturally shy around women. And the more attractive a woman is, or the more women there are to interact with the more intense his shyness becomes.


Another reason for his avoidance is that he may suffer from a low self esteem. The problem here has to do with your self worth. One automatically assumes that because a woman is extremely attractive you expect her to be with an attractive guy. The problem here is that the “average” guy sees himself as average, that is not very attractive, not rich enough, not tall enough and ultimately not good enough for a extremely attractive woman.


Most of what we have discussed above has to do with you mindset and your expectation. The interesting thing is that the guys you regard as “attractive” to women do not necessarily see themselves in the same light. And then there is also the woman’s viewpoint – she could be attracted to what you may consider as a nerd. After all there is no accounting for taste. She could have had some bad experiences with jocks and want nothing to do with them. There are so many variables when it comes to the interactivity between men and women that you always have a chance but only if you take it.


We all see things from our perspective and what one person considers attractive is not necessarily shared by others. And this my friend makes the field wide open if only you take your chances and go for it.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

Feed Shark

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