Eliminating the fear of the approach



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.

In my last two posts I talked about the reasons “Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls”. Those reasons were as diverse as the fear of rejection, the fear of exposure, excessive shyness, low self esteem, procrastination, being clueless on what do or say, performance anxiety and the fear of embarrassment.

When you sit back and consider the above-mentioned reasons they play themselves out in your mind. In this post we will try to eliminate some of those fears so that you will find it easier to approach and talk to the women you are attracted to.

Even the guys that appear confident and self assured can find the act of walking up to, and striking up a conversation with, an attractive woman, let alone a group of women, extremely daunting.

This is known as the ‘opening’ and is one of the biggest obstacle guys have in their interaction with the opposite sex especially when it comes with the goal of attracting them.

The reason for this is not hard to see. After all, approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman would appear to come with a considerable amount of risk and therefore requires a considerable effort on your part.

So why do men have trouble approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman? Well, although we touched on some of the reasons in previous posts let us take another look?

Firstly, they are scared of being shot down in flames, rejected and made a fool of by the woman they approach.

Then, because they have approached the girl with the ulterior motive of picking her up, they think that the girl will see through their approach and be totally unenthusiastic about having something like a normal, enjoyable conversation with them.

Some of the guys worry that after a few minutes of conversation they won’t have anything to say, standing there with a mouth full of teeth. The reason this may happen is that they could be thinking way too much about what to say next instead of listening to her so that they can respond appropriately.

They also worry that after a few minutes in her presence they will loose whatever courage they mustered, start to unravel and loose the plot.

Most guys know that to pick up a woman successfully requires more than just approaching and opening. Instead of enjoying the woman’s company they start to think about the other stages of seduction and worry about how the will achieve them. They worry whether they will be able to close at the end of the conversation and get her phone number or get a date with her.

They also worry whether any of the other guys in the vicinity may encroach upon and thwart their attempt to pick up the woman.

Some guys will worry about how their attempt at picking the woman up may look to others. Even though nobody is looking at them they feel as though they are under a microscope, with every move they make analysed. And the funny thing is that they are not wrong in this aspect because they are the ones thinking and analysing their own moves.

There are other reasons why guys fear the approach and opening but they all fall in similar categories of the ones listed above.

They mainly relate to thinking too much and relate to their deep-seated fear of being ridiculed in front of others and rejection.

In my next post we will look at ways to sidestep your fear of approaching and opening to an attractive and vivacious woman and do so effectively whenever and
wherever you want to.


I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls (2)



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


Following from yesterday’s post on why average guys end up dating average girls here are a few more reasons why “Mr Average” avoids dating women whom he considers very attractive.


The first is a great one – procrastination. The average guy will think up excuses not to take action. After all what are the odds of him dating a foxy lady? 10 million to 1! With odds like that, why bother trying? But by not doing anything, by not acting on your aspirations, nothing will happen. And so by default you pass up on that beautiful vivacious woman and land up with an “average” girl.


Another reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is that he is clueless on what do or say. Beautiful vivacious women can appear to be very sophisticated and adept at playing the seduction game. And this poses a problem to the average guy – after all what do you say or do to impress someone who may have seen or heard every approach known to man?


Some guys suffer from performance anxiety and we are not talking about sexual performance here. Average guys are by default not used to talking to hot, sexy ladies and become extremely anxious when interacting with them. For some guys this anxiety can be quite debilitating. However, once they know the girl they loosen up and loose their inhibition. For these guys, the best approach would be to be introduced to the girl through a mutual friend.


Another debilitating reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is the fear of embarrassment. People in general are terrified of making a fool of themselves in front of others especially their peers and guys certainly do not want to make fools of themselves in front of someone the find extremely attractive. For some guys the threat of embarrassment appears so real to them that it causes them to literally freeze. The fear of potential embarrassment makes them shy away from considering the possibility that she will say yes to their advances.

When it is all said and done the problems listed above mostly play themselves out in your mind. Your imagination magnifies the problems to the extent that they become debilitating. It’s all in the mind.


You’ve got to learn to power through. Focus on the prize and not the problem, especially when the problem here is self inflicted. The trick here is to go for it. And if things do not go to plan don’t give up. You owe it to yourself to try again. The second or third time will be easier.



I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

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Nothing will happen unless you do something about it.



Hi Guys,

One of the biggest problems in life is inertia or rather a lack of inertia. Generally people have become too used to instant gratification. You see it; you want it; you buy it – period. However, the same approach cannot be applied to human relationships.

If only after reading an excellent guide, such as “Seduction Secrets For Men” or “Dirty Secrets of The Pick-Up Artist“, on how to approach and seduce any woman, you can sit back and “hey presto”, it magically happens – women fall all over themselves to go out with you?  Both, you and I both know that this is only a dream.  A great dream!  And that we would have to be totally delusional to believe in that dream.

We know that nothing will happen unless we act upon it.  And yet how many of us really act upon and apply what we read.  It is our lack of inertia that holds us back.  We are not motivated enough to turn thought into action.

After reading one of the above mentioned guides you may think that the ideas presented are really interesting and you may even be motivated enough to try some of them.  However, there’s a little voice inside your head that puts a stop to all this.  Did I say voice?  There is a whole chorus in there arguing for and against implementing any of the ideas, with some of the voices coming up with a whole host of reasons why you shouldn’t.

Those little voices represent our fear.  For many of us it is our FEAR that holds us back;  the fear of making a fool of yourself;  the fear of change;  the fear of getting hurt.

The problem here is that too many of us have been conditioned for instant gratification. And that ain’t gonna happen.

We have too take stock of ourselves before applying the secret seduction techniques that we learn about in a publication such as Seduction Secrets For Men in order to find the right strategy for ourselves.

Finding the right strategy can be frustrating at times. However, it can be made even more frustrating by our drive to find the holy grail, the big one that will win big on the night. The truth as I’ve alluded to above, is that there is no holy grail. No system or strategy is perfect, but there are many out there that work and at the end of the day all you need is an edge over the competition.

Nothing, but nothing will happen unless you are willing to put the effort in.

And yet I have seen too many guys, who could not be bothered to put the effort in applying what they’ve learned, expect a result. And because nothing happens, they blame the guide or publication for their failure to do anything. This is called “projection” where someone blames you for something they have/have not done. They never take responsibility for their action or inaction.

Don’t be one of those people who blame everyone else for what happens in their lives. Take control of it yourself and go after what you want to.  Don’t let others affect you and your dreams, because at the end of the day only you can live your life.  No one else.

If you follow the advise you’ve read on how to seduce a women, you may still get rejected or you may still stumble and screw something up but so what?  I’ll let you in on a little secret … most of those guys who are swamped with women did not just get there by force of their charisma overnight, they LEARNED how to seduce women by making mistakes and fixing them and discovering bit by bit their strengths and what makes women tick.

The difference was that they stuck with it. They did not give up.

“no art, however minor, demands less than total dedication if you want to excel in it.”
– Alberti.

If you can focus you whole attention on the ‘game’ will get what you want, and wonder why others seem so incapable of doing the same.

A final thought on the subject – Most guys don’t realize this but, in general, people outside some very demanding field don’t realize the extent to which success depends on constant (though often unconscious) effort.

For example, most people seem to consider the ability to sing as some kind of inherent quality, like being tall. In fact, most people who “can sing” like singing, and have spent many hours practicing and doing it; that’s why they’re good at it. Likewise, being popular with the ladies isn’t just something you are or you aren’t, but something you make yourself.

I would really like you to comment if you have any thoughts on the above.

Until the next time.

Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist”. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

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