Why Average Guys End Up Dating Average Girls (2)



Hi Guys,


I hope that you’ve all had a really great day.


Following from yesterday’s post on why average guys end up dating average girls here are a few more reasons why “Mr Average” avoids dating women whom he considers very attractive.


The first is a great one – procrastination. The average guy will think up excuses not to take action. After all what are the odds of him dating a foxy lady? 10 million to 1! With odds like that, why bother trying? But by not doing anything, by not acting on your aspirations, nothing will happen. And so by default you pass up on that beautiful vivacious woman and land up with an “average” girl.


Another reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is that he is clueless on what do or say. Beautiful vivacious women can appear to be very sophisticated and adept at playing the seduction game. And this poses a problem to the average guy – after all what do you say or do to impress someone who may have seen or heard every approach known to man?


Some guys suffer from performance anxiety and we are not talking about sexual performance here. Average guys are by default not used to talking to hot, sexy ladies and become extremely anxious when interacting with them. For some guys this anxiety can be quite debilitating. However, once they know the girl they loosen up and loose their inhibition. For these guys, the best approach would be to be introduced to the girl through a mutual friend.


Another debilitating reason why the average guy avoids trying to date a pretty girl is the fear of embarrassment. People in general are terrified of making a fool of themselves in front of others especially their peers and guys certainly do not want to make fools of themselves in front of someone the find extremely attractive. For some guys the threat of embarrassment appears so real to them that it causes them to literally freeze. The fear of potential embarrassment makes them shy away from considering the possibility that she will say yes to their advances.

When it is all said and done the problems listed above mostly play themselves out in your mind. Your imagination magnifies the problems to the extent that they become debilitating. It’s all in the mind.


You’ve got to learn to power through. Focus on the prize and not the problem, especially when the problem here is self inflicted. The trick here is to go for it. And if things do not go to plan don’t give up. You owe it to yourself to try again. The second or third time will be easier.



I would really appreciate your comment on the above.



As always, I wish you everything I wish myself.



Until the next time.



Alain


PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

Feed Shark

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Seduction; It all starts with a shift in mindset



Hi Guys,

Why is it that some people in exactly situation, who have the same knowledge obtain such vastly different result?

Mindset and Action.

Seduction is an art that any man can learn.

In essence, seduction comes down to ‘marketing’.  Your goal is to get a woman to believe that you are a ‘hot product’ that she just has to have.  She is your customer and you are selling ‘yourself’.

This is all pretty much straightforward stuff.  However, you have to believe in the product.  You have to believe that you are a ‘hot product’.

This takes us to the question of whether you are capable of selling yourself effectively.

Let’s face it; selling to a stranger is obviously more demanding than selling to a repeat customer.

The problem you face is that she will see you coming from a mile away, think to herself “here we go again” and put up her defenses before you can even begin your ‘sales pitch’.

The majority of people are bad sellers.  But this is not their fault.  They were never taught to sell effectively.  And it is not a skill we are born with.  Even those who are considered to be great salesmen when it comes down to selling a product are poor sellers when it comes to ‘selling themselves’.

The best salesmen are those that understand that nobody likes to be sold.  Because of this they make sure that you do not realize that they are trying to sell you. You will never see them coming and by the time they are done you are the one begging them to sell the product to you.

Because majority of people resent being sold to, they in turn don’t like selling to others.   They tend to have a negative association towards selling.

Should the mental preparation and training be missing from the equation, you will continue sabotaging your own efforts.

For that reason a shift in mindset is required to transform your ability to ‘sell’ yourself.

You have to believe that you are worth it.  You have to believe in the ‘hot product’ you are selling.  Because if you don’t you will lack confidence which equals to instant death.

As any great salesman knows, no matter how good you are, you may still get rejected.  It’s nothing personal.  You learn by making mistakes, taking corrective action and tweaking things as go.

Until the next time.

Alain

PS. If you Have enjoyed this report you may want to read this special, revealing report titled, Seduction Secrets for Men: How to Find, Meet, and Seduce Women – Anywhere, Anytime! — and what you read in it will shock you! I’m not kidding. You will discover knowledge that has been kept secret from you, and from other men, for generations! It’s the very reason most men feel so powerless over beautiful women, and are complete failures in the dating game.

This report is about to change all that by revealing these closely-guarded secrets — so that you can have your power back! (And if you’re already pretty good with women, you’ll still find some hot tips to become even better at seducing them!)

PPS. If you need a proven, working system – step-by-step – in detail, about what to say to a woman to make her attracted to you within minutes of talking to her, you may want to read the Dirty Secrets of the Pickup Artist. By buying through this link you will be taken to a Special Limited Time offer where this report comes with the audio version for free!

PPPS. At some point during your seduction, you’ll get to a stage where you and your lady friend will both be ready for sexual intimacy. Before you get to that stage, you may want to consider reading High On Sextasy! – a great report that shows you exactly how to please your lover in creative and sensual ways.

Hey, you’ve learned how to seduce her. You might as well learn how to drive her wild in bed too, right? 😉

Feed Shark

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Seduction; It all starts with a shift in mindset

Seduction Secrets For Men


Hi Guys,

Why is it that some people in exactly situation, who have the same knowledge obtain such vastly different result?

Mindset and Action.

Seduction is an art that any man can learn.

In essence, seduction comes down to ‘marketing’.  Your goal is to get a woman to believe that you are a ‘hot product’ that she just has to have.  She is your customer and you are selling ‘yourself’.

This is all pretty much straightforward stuff.  However, you have to believe in the product.  You have to believe that you are a ‘hot product’.

This takes us to the question of whether you are capable of selling yourself effectively.

Let’s face it; selling to a stranger is obviously more demanding than selling to a repeat customer.

The problem you face is that she will see you coming from a mile away, think to herself “here we go again” and put up her defences before you can even begin your ‘sales pitch’.

The majority of people are bad sellers.  But this is not their fault.  They were never taught to sell effectively.  And it is not a skill we are born with.  Even those who are considered to be great salesmen when it comes down to selling a product are poor sellers when it comes to ‘selling themselves’.

The best salesmen are those that understand that nobody likes to be sold.  Because of this they make sure that you do not realize that they are trying to sell you. You will never see them coming and by the time they are done you are the one begging them to sell the product to you.

Because majority of people resent being sold to, they in turn don’t like selling to others.   They tend to have a negative association towards selling.

Should the mental preparation and training be missing from the equation, you will continue sabotaging your own efforts.

For that reason a shift in mindset is required to transform your ability to ‘sell’ yourself.

You have to believe that you are worth it.  You have to believe in the ‘hot product’ you are selling.  Because if you don’t you will lack confidence which equals to instant death.

As any great salesman knows, no matter how good you are, you may still get rejected.  It’s nothing personal.  You learn by making mistakes, taking corrective action and tweaking things as go.

In order to uncover the powerful insider secrets that will skyrocket your sex life and make wonderful women beg you to date them, CLICK HERE to find out more.

Until the next time.

Alain

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What do women look for in a man?

Seduction Secrets For Men



Hi Guys,


The question many men have is “What do women look for in a man?”.  Most men have absolutely no idea what women want.   In this post we will attempt to answer this question.


When a woman looks at a man she will have her template, the list of qualities she is looking for in a man at the ready.

If, you, as a man, know what they are and can demonstrate that you have those qualities it will make her want you.  This is part of the attraction and seduction process.



You don’t have to demonstrate all the qualities she is looking for but the more of those rare qualities you project the more she will want you and the easier it is for you to seduce her.


So what are those qualities that women look for in a man?


A woman will be looking for some of the following qualities:


High status – Being an alpha male has more to do about your attitude and behaviour rather than money or appearance.  You project it in the way you walk and move with deliberate and focused actions.


Leadership – A take-charge attitude and a strong charisma at work, socially and amongst peers.


Power – she wants to feel safe and secure and so she wants a man that can protect her and her children and that he is willing to use resources to protect her.


Attractive to other women – There is an element of pre-selection here as well as the challenge aspect of it. No one gains much intrinsic value from winning something that’s easy.


Funny – Every body likes being in the company of someone who appears to have a good sense of humour.


Confident – Whether or not you’re consciously aware of it, everything you do communicates some form of status.  By being smooth and comfortable you give off a sense of quiet confidence.


Strong – either mentally or physically or both.  A woman wants to know whether a man has a strong and health body and at the same time whether he possesses sharp and dynamic thinking capabilities i.e. can he figure out what to do and how to do it.


Looks/body – She wants to know whether you have good genes for her offspring’s.


Social competence – She wants to know that you possess the social, emotional, and intellectual skills and behaviours to succeed in society.


Dress sense – need I say more?


Emotionally wired correctly – she wants to know that you are emotionally wired correctly and that you are not a potential psychopath. She wants a man that will respond with the correct emotions at the right times and is willing to sympathize and empathize.


A willingness to walk away – If you value your standards you are able and willing to walk away from any woman, no matter how beautiful she is, should she display qualities or behaviours you do not approve of.  And, after all, why should you settle for anything less.


A real male – not a metro-sexual male who is less certain of his identity and is more interested in his image and has himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual preference.  After all she does not want to compete with you for time in the bathroom etc.


Now, as I’ve mentioned before, you don’t have to demonstrate all the above qualities to become attractive to a woman.


But you should learn to demonstrate the above qualities…


And every time you demonstrate them…


You fire mental triggers in her mind that makes her want you.


People want what they can’t currently have and the more of those rare qualities you exhibits (5 or more of the above-mentioned qualities) the more she won’t be able to resist you.


You will generate a genuine, deep and real, mental and sexual attraction for you in her mind.


However, it does require a bit of work on your part.  Re-read the above.  Act upon it.  Believe me it will be worth it.


In order to uncover the powerful insider secrets that will skyrocket your sex life and make wonderful women beg you to date them,  CLICK HERE to find out more.


Until the next time.


Alain

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The Need to Surrender and Be Led

Seduction Secrets For Men

“You have to learn the rules of the game.

And then you have to play better than anyone else.”

– Albert Einstein

Hi Guys,


Human beings are pack animals. There is an innate desire by people to “belong”, either to a group, club, inner circle etc. This desire is so strong in some people that that people will go to great lengths to and do almost anything to get in. This need or desire is the platform that allows the seduction and manipulation to take place.


For the most part, the average person doesn’t know what drive him (or her, if I’ve got to be PC). They simply allow themselves to be led by others or by their randomly conditioned mechanism. Conditioning occurs all the time, from cradle to grave. I’ve alluded some social conditioning above i.e. political correctness conditioning.


People are so caught up by the treadmill of life, their day-to-day ‘activities’, the media in all its forms and the social conditioning that they never know what they really want. Because of this there appears to be a void, an intense craving, a strong need or desire to be swept away, to surrender to a higher power, a greater cause, to experience ‘falling in love’ or other intense emotional experience. (This often forms the basis of great epic stories and women’s literature).


When we find something or someone who can give us or put us into a strong emotional state, a state that consumes us, through excitement, passion, exhilaration, attraction, lust, love, etc. we allow ourselves to drop our guard, to surrender and be led.


It doesn’t matter what a person is surrendering to – as long as they get to experience that feeling. That ‘emotional high’, that is what they are after. It makes them feel alive.


Manipulators, marketers and seduction masters target that need… our need to fill that ‘hunger’, that ‘void’ and our desire to feel that emotional high.


These manipulators, marketers and seduction masters also know that they don’t have to give people what they want as the majority of people will surrender to emotions and experiences that resembles their want. In this way, people are often tricked into believing that they have found the real thing.


This means that you do not have to be what a woman wants or thinks she wants in order to attract her; you can attract her by projecting what resembles her wants.


Once you know what women want, or rather the woman you want to attract wants, all you need to do is to project or take on the image of what she is looking for in a man for her to be attracted to you.


Forget what you have seen in chick flicks. They are Mills and Boon’s in celluloid. They tell you nothing about the way a woman thinks or about the aspiration of women.


Humans are highly emotional creatures, women more so than men. And you can learn to harness this to get the woman you want.


To do this you must find what truly drives them, motivates them, makes them come alive and, yes, what makes them anxious, nervous and fearful.


You must learn to read the signs. And it sometimes helps to have someone in the other camp pass you their secrets, to provide you with the information, the mental triggers you need to know to fire genuine feelings of attraction in the opposite sex.


The secrets of attraction and seduction are easily learned.  You on the other hand must be ready to make a change. We are not talking about massive changes taking place all at once, but small incremental change… the first of which is talking responsibility for your actions followed by actually taking action.


If you can’t wait for my next posting in order to uncover the powerful insider secrets that will skyrocket your sex life and make wonderful women beg for you to date them CLICK HERE to find out more.


Until the next time.


Alain

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